Ideas on life, universe, and everything
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Good fences make good neighbors.
“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.”
― Leo Tolstoy
The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemicals
No one likes plastic flowers -> be authentic
Actions over words -> Pay attention to what they do
has consequence, has influence
You want to be respected? Respect yourself first.
under promise, over deliver
don’t argue, ask specific questions
Be assertive and kind
People are both curious and afraid of new things. Thus a familiar thing in an original setting is interesting.
The more available something is, the less we want it
people want responsibility, respect, and freedom.
The world we have created is a product of our thinking; it cannot be changed without changing our thinking.
humility, adaptability, long time horizons, skepticism of popularity and money
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.
Relentlessly prune bullshit, don’t wait to do things that matter, and savor the time you have. That’s what you do when life is short.
“If you want to know what a given society believes in, look at what its largest buildings are devoted to.” — Joseph Campbell
being vulnerable vs insecurity
Vulnerable: exposed, wide open, susceptible to getting hurt.
Insecure: afraid, filled with doubt, not confident.
It takes courage and confidence to allow yourself to be vulnerable.
Being able to admit when you’re wrong is a wonderfully attractive quality and gets you a lot of legitimacy. It’s endearing.
Confidence, arrogance, humility
Arrogance is a weakness.
Confident people are humble because they don’t have to prove anything
Good stories include a change in fortune
There are 3 most common patterns
Rise and Fall /\
Fall and Rise \/
Rise, Fall, Recover /\/
isolation of work from leisure
Ask Specific Questions
Simply ask them to thoroughly explain their bad idea until they crash it into to the ground themselves — leaving them open to your idea.
Less is more
Remove all nonessentials
Authentic pride means understanding who you are and what you are worth. You don’t need to pretend to be more than you are.
what pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for?
action -> experience -> confidence
“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
fortune favors the bold
If you want something, ask for it.
Care less what people think of you. Way, way less.
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you are right.
It is never too late to be what you might have been.
let your love of something pull you, but do not hastily give all of yourself and find there is nothing left to give.
Don’t engage in the achievement rat race.
Listen to praise from those you respect, but ignore it from those you don’t.
hope is not a strategy
Don’t ignore your dreams; don’t work too much; say what you think; cultivate friendships; be happy.
Work on the biggest, most frequently used problems you can find, and create the largest net impact.
Unless you ask, you ain’t getting anything.
do not be a full cup of tea, be open to learn
The half of knowledge is knowing where to find it
don’t be sorry, improve yourself.
say I don’t know more often
Many limits are imaginary.
ask clarifying questions
Trust is the most delicate thing.
Accept the truth very fast no matter how bitter it is.
Sophia, Andreia, Dikaiosyne, Sôphrosynê,
wisdom, courage, honesty, moderation
life is too short to cry for anything.
Drink because you are happy, but never because you are miserable.
Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be.
be free from anxiety of results, journey over destination
want everything, lose everything
a day spent worrying is a day wasted.
perspective matters, perception is reality
Don’t let anyone steal your joy
made a mistake ?
Fix your mistake
Dont make it again
Do nothing against thy will, nor contrary to the community, nor without due examination, nor with reluctancy.
Raise your awareness throughout the day.
Start observing your thoughts.
Limit your thinking to dedicated times.
do not judge people
If we take care of the moments, the years will take care of themselves
As we age, we should spend more time staying fit and less time making money.
Make habits obvious, attractive, easy, satisfying
We first make our habits, then our habits make us.
Write down current habits to become aware
I will do this at that time in that location
After doing X, I will do Y
Make the cue for good habits visible and obvious
Reduce friction, simpler steps, less steps
Design the environment
Do something you enjoy before and after
Never miss twice
don’t say everything you think
a smiling face and closed thoughts
our capacity for fretting is endless -> don’t worry, be happy
drink water, eat well, sleep well, stand straight, breath well
be healthy, clean, positive, active
be social, confident, professional
above all, be kind
mark of strength is not to take yourself too seriously
same actions -> same results Act different -> get different results
goals for planning, systems for progress
Modelin yerine daha iyi bir model koymak, zayıf bir parçayı güçlendirmek,
To make it one bit better
To prevent the worst
Getting rid of the worst
elite players train deliberately
Don’t mix work and leisure
but make work playful
important over urgent
in the end, you are left with the adventures and good memories
either fight or not, there is no middle
ignore sunk costs
in the long run, optimism is the best prevention for regret
Doing is everything. Use your knowledge
What determines your success isn’t “What do you want to enjoy?” The question is, “What pain do you want to sustain?”
Finally, to repeat one more time: productivity in the wrong direction isn’t worth anything at all. Think more about what to work on.
Being kind isn’t the same as being nice. It isn’t about superficial praise. It doesn’t mean dulling your opinions. And it shouldn’t diminish the passion with which you present them.
Being kind is fundamentally about taking responsibility for your impact on the people around you. It requires you be mindful of their feelings and considerate of the way your presence affects them.
If you’re serious about making an impact in the world, power down your smartphone, close your browser tabs, roll up your sleeves and get to work.
Design and Society
In the current age of global wars, international terrorism, financial turmoil, outsourced labor, awakening behemoths (China), increasing corruption, people fear the future. Look at Apple, classic 1960’s space age retro. Look at Instagram. Cozy and nostalgic polaroid filters. If I designed for the future, I’d take hints from the past. A key difference is that in the past, different social groups had something to look forward to (emancipation and liberation), despite the looming threat of thermonuclear warfare. Nowadays? In the western hemisphere? It’s all gloom and doom. In western markets - Your brand should function as an opiate, it should reassure and placate people. In emerging markets - Sell the American dream of old. Of course there’s a third way, show us a way out of here. But for that advertisement alone is not enough. You’d have to change how your business runs and make a lasting impact on society. Forget shareholder value and start thinking about society.
Human brain is single threaded
“It’s a good idea to save some easy tasks for moments when you would otherwise stall.”
enthusiasm is contagious, show it
If you can solve your problem, then what is the need of worrying?
If you cannot solve it, then what is the use of worrying?
Refinement of everyday thinking
isolation of work from leisure
The average players, they discovered, spread their work throughout the day.
Raising The Minimum Wage By $1 May Prevent Thousands Of Suicides, Study Shows
“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”
When you give the best you have to someone in need, it translates into something much deeper to the receiver. It means they are worthy.
Systematic criticism and correction
Only daring speculation can lead us further
Simple ideas under complex systems
Simple principles governing complex systems
alcohol is one of the most powerful suppressors of REM [rapid-eye-movement] sleep
“recipients of praise do work harder, but only initially. Once they sense the manipulation behind the appreciation, their productivity drops the beauty of appreciation is spoiled by the lurking intent to get something out of them.”
When in doubt, rely on an algorithm, because it’s more accurate than your best guess or some expert’s opinion.
We are irrational. We are prone to jump to conclusions.
It’s perfectly OK to disagree with someone; but please consider doing so in a respectful and thoughtful tone. Remember that others often shut-down when they read criticism, even when well warranted. The way you phrase and present yourself defines whether you’re giving criticism or critique.
Learning should take place when it is needed, when the learner is interested, not according to some arbitrary, fixed schedule
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.
The difference between genius and stupidity is: genius has its limits.
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life, and you will call it fate.”
be a friend to yourself
askers significantly overestimate the interpersonal costs of asking sensitive questions.
1) Be aware of the cravings whenever they appear, detect them and think “I’m feeling I’m having a craving for X.”
2) Don’t fight it. Let the craving rest in your brain and be conscious of it
We notice things that are already primed in memory or repeated often.
Bizarre/funny/visually-striking/anthropomorphic things stick out more than non-bizarre/unfunny things.
We notice when something has changed.
We are drawn to details that confirm our own existing beliefs.
your word is worth more than your weight in gold.
Expect nothing and you’ll never be dissapointed!
Go down the detail by feedback
My relationships have improved dramatically now that I only share my time with people who really, really want to share their time with me.
tag questions Isn’t it? Aren’t you? Couldn’t we? Don’t you think?
disagree politely, convincingly, and respectfully.
Work shouldn’t affect(nor care) about your private time, and vice versa.
People can be competitive and treacherous, so watch what you say, and how much to whom, never talk negatively, especially about others
Put sunshine get sunshine
Put storm get blizzard
The satisfaction of a little rage is never worth the cost.
My friend didn’t give me advice… he gave me SUPPORT.
there is something all people need, and that is to be heard.
communicate your needs respectfully
sometimes people just want to be heard above all else
Give glowing, public praise to the work and behavior I want to see more of, rather than complain about what I want to see less.
It’s not the destination it’s the journey
Whenever in doubt / under stress: default to being professional as possible.
Identify what’s most important to you.
Eliminate everything else.
don’t chase many things, keep the essentials, eliminate all else
It all takes time. And persistence. And patience.
politely assert yourself,
I feel, I think, I believe, I don’t think, I don’t know, I know
watch yourself from a distance,
be aware of thoughts and emotions
if you are making mistakes…you’re Doing Something
today is 100% of your life
has consequence, has influence
fortune favors the bold -> be bold
April 3, 2020