Principia

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Think of yourself as dead. You have lived your life

Now take what’s left and live it properly.

– Marcus Aurelius

What makes you the person you are ?

We are our principles and they shape our decisions and life. What we think, we become.

This is my attempt to define a good person and a good life

a good person

  • true

  • brave

  • moderate

  • fair and kind

  • humble and confident

  • thinking, feeling, loving

  • calm, grateful, active

  • wise and brave, temperate and just

a good life

  1. health

  2. freedom

  3. integrity

  4. love and friendship

  5. meaningful work

  6. hope

  7. peace of mind

to achieve this, a few helpful ways are

  • stay healthy

  • stay positive and calm

  • value yourself, value your time, value your work

  • show your love

  • care

  • be social

  • communicate well

  • pick your battles

  • be contentful

  • kindly assert yourself

  • think for yourself, think critically

  • do not regret, learn and move on

  • Be kind to yourself. If you won’t, who will?

  • Forgive yourself

  • relax, enjoy life

  • grow

  • act

  • be free from anxiety of results

care

care for body and mind

care for friends and family

care for people, animals, and earth

care for the future

health

water, sleep, healthy food, and sports

clean body, clean mind

be positive

optimist, enthusiastic, passionate

relax, chill, fresh

have fun, enjoy life

our capacity for fretting is endless -> don’t worry, be happy

We suffer more in imagination than in reality – Seneca

calm

peace of mind

tranquility

comfortable

forgiving

slow to anger, quick to calm

anger and grief damage more than the things that cause them

When angry, count ten before you speak; if very angry, a hundred. — Thomas Jefferson

social

do not interrupt

do not judge

do not jump to conclusions

do not take yourself too seriously

do not brag, be humble

Pick your battles: Some things are worth fighting over. But most things aren’t.

don’t carry baggage, deal with it at the moment

people first

emotional intelligence

friendship

care

friendly, sincere, warm

agreeable

honesty

integrity

sober, honorable, dignified

authentic

show your love

be a starter

greet people first

compliment

text, call, mail

notice changes

smile

hug

start conversations

People will never forget how you made them feel.

– Maya Angelou

communicate well

listen well

kind and assertive

empathy

breath, posture, voice, tone

speak clearly, with enthusiasm

dress well

eye contact

body language

pick your battles

disagree respectfully

constructive feedback

poorest way is arguing

Building consensus, understanding emotions, having support are more important than winning an argument

If a human disagrees with you, let him live. In a hundred billion galaxies, you will not find another.

Simple words with big effects

no

no, thank you

I love you

I think

I feel

I don’t know

I like

I don’t like

I agree

I don’t agree

I don’t understand

I’m sorry, that was my fault

Can you help me?

Moderate

golden mean

Balance work and play

Balance fun and seriousness

Balance thinking and doing

hope

In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer.

― Albert Camus

hope itself is often better than what you’re hoping for…

move on

get up

don’t give up

go ahead

no regrets, hindsight is 20/20

learn and move on

Think critically

An unexamined life is not worth living.

– Socrates

rise above the situation

disregard the box

watch for biases

question assumptions

pause and reflect

think long term

reflect on the past, plan for the future, enjoy the moment

Work and play

Do nothing against thy will, nor contrary to the community, nor without due examination, nor with reluctancy.

– Marcus Aurelius

curious

creative

responsible

subtlety

quality

reliable

punctual

value your time, value yourself and others

show your value

professional

do something just because you enjoy it

do what you love and love what you do

Don’t think about how proud you would be to run a marathon. Question whether you like running.

grow

iterate

plan

A goal without a plan is just a wish.

Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

systematic

Prepared

pragmatic

feedback

Work smart

Eliminate, simplify, prioritize, delegate, iterate

don’t be sorry, improve yourself

Act

think before speak

think before promise

don’t overthink

plan before doing something

bias for action, most decisions are reversible

good enough is good

Stop waiting, start doing

Go ahead, just do it, impress yourself

May 29, 2020